Now I know, it's a known thing that parents get desperate for Grandchildren as they grow older. But, is it really fair to put pressure on your children to make such an important life decision? Having children isn't something that anyone else should have any say in since it's your life they're ruining (I'm clearly not ready for kids!)
The problem is, my Mum had me at 39, so now she's 65 (I think), but I'm only 27. I'm no where near ready for kids, but she's getting to an age where she feels it's really important to have Grandchildren before she's too old to help with childcare. By rights, I should be able to wait till I'm 39 if I like but I know she'll be really disappointed if I do.
I know a lot of you would agree that 39 is not a great age to have a child, and I very much doubt I would wait that long (assuming I'd have a choice in the matter). Am I right to want to wait till I'm at least 30 to have children though? Lots of people think your twenties are the right time to have a child. I can see their point too. My parents had children older, and I've already lost my father. Some of my friends' parents are turning 50, or 55, and my mother is much older than their parents. I would have given anything to have my father around for my wedding, or to see his grandchildren, and if I'd had younger parents he probably would have.
However, I know right now is not the time. Clearly I'm not so ruled by my mother that I'm going to get knocked up at the first opportunity. I just wish she'd leave me alone and stop the endless comments. I want to enjoy being in my twenties and early thirties with my boyfriend. I'm not even engaged, let alone married. I have my career to think about and I want to do lots of learning before I have no time. Having children is about committing all your free time to something. I see lots of mothers struggle to cope with a child, job, and more training and I don't want to be in that situation.
How old is the right age to have children?